Moving elsewhere is a good idea.
I've been wondering how my kids would grow up in this current world of everything online. Most of the people I really enjoy talking to, are my online friends. It's tough because I don't live close to any of them. But, I have in the past hung out with quite a few of them, and it's wonderful. I hope my kids will have similar experiences. Especially now, during Covid, that is pretty much what they are limited to, hanging out online... playing games, etc...
Things can get better. It has not been easy for us... the last 10 years have involved a lot of stress, crying, tough decisions, and compromises. But, I am in a much better place now at 43, than I ever have been before (except for real life friends). Many other people have found love, or success later in life too.
https://twentytwowords.com/biggest-s...s-late-in-life
Since moving north to Muskoka I've struggled a ton with anxiety and depression. Seasonal for sure, but even in the warm months it can hit pretty hard. Much the same as 21Kid, I'm the most "successful" I've ever been, both of us have good jobs with good pay, benefits, I have a pension, our house out in the country is great, got a nice big shop, working on cars, somewhat financially stable for the first time... Plus I lost all the weight and got fit.
Yet still depressed, still struggling with anxiety.
I have zero IRL friends, what few I had are back in London. But I swore to Tara like twenty years ago if we ever had the (financial) opportunity to move back up north to be near her family, we would. So I kept my promise. But it's a struggle. The average age of citizen in Muskoka is like fucking 90, and pretty much every person here is a right wing wackadoo. So while I do struggle in GENERAL with making friends and being sociable, it's even worse trying to do it here. And now COVID on top of that.
The good news is, we finally have a doctor up here (so I can let the one in London go), and she's hooking me up with a therapist. I'm terrified to be honest, never spoken to any professional about mental health before. But maybe now is the time to start.
Last edited by tigeraid; March 1st, 2021 at 10:18 AM.
Cool, Man! Just be very upfront about your goals for therapy in the short term. Non-communicable diseases -like mental health issues- are not like an infection that will go away with a round meds, but stuff that will stay with you for a long time and will need different therapeutic goals and the strategies to reach them. IME, be clear about what you want for the first 6 months or so, and then your doctor can tell you how hard that'd be and what the milestones on the way to that will be.
Do not despair, I've heard stories of people who do great with like a year of therapy. Plus,
That sounds like a guy willing to do the work to get better.
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You seemed like a smart guy or at least a smart ass! Anyway, you seemed smarter than me, not sure why you are destined to be a factory temp worker.
If that’s all that’s available in your area, than all the more reason to move?
What are you passionate about?