Good advice.
We all go through our own struggles (i'm not trivialising yours Rikadyn.) Sometimes we are equipped to deal with the things we are going through. Other times we aren't. Other times it feels like no matter what you do, nothing will change, and an overwhelming sense of dread just follows you around, shitting on you as you try to evade it and find a single ray of light, and hope.
I'm currently depressed right now. Have been for a couple of months. Part of it is the existential struggle. Part of it is this COVID shit that prevents us from socialising, travelling, getting out, etc. It's been a very long last twelve months. Part of it is it's fucking winter, and I hate winter. The lady that tried to murder me two years ago, because whatever was on her cell phone was more important than paying attention to the road. My backs fucked (and i'm pretty sure it got fucked because I got depressed and stopped caring. I was lax about stretching, and exercising, just going through the motions and trudging forward one step at a time. And that that period is exactly when I managed to harm my back when previously i'd been on a real positive upswing healthwise.) I need another $10000 injection. The fact that that shit is still ongoing; they're trying to settle the case as the statute of limitations is (now) over. They sued to maintain the statute as the anniversary was during our snowpocalypse. They're confident it'll be settled soon. I have to tell myself that I didn't ask to be rear ended. I didn't ask to have to give up so much of what I loved and enjoyed, etc.
I get through by trying to enjoy one thing a day. It doesn't have to be a big thing. It can be a favorite desert for dinner. 30 mins of solitude with a nice book. Helmet time on my bike/ seat time in the car. Loud music. A guilty pleasure movie on Netflix. Even a comic book or Dr Suess. Etc. I immerse myself in that enjoyable moment of the day. I relish it and try to record and revel in the sensations that give me calm/ pleasure. I'm looking forward to things in a post covid world. I threaten my friends i'm going to visit them when it's all done, to stay safe and get through it, because I want to see them when this is over. It helps that they are all over the country and that satisfies my wanderlust at the same time. I continue to seek out new destinations for my "around the world in the USA" tour. I envisage new things to do and try when this is all over.
Clips from Chappelle Show are quick fix. Laughter is the worlds best medicine as the saying goes.
But, i'm ok. Ish. I'll get through because I desperately want to go "home," see my dad, revel in the African sun, and reset whatever it is that ails me. Travel to Zimbabwe though, right now, 28 hours on a plane to my hometown, is a no no. I don't want to be cooped up that long with 200 of my closest strangers.
I don't know if any of that helps, but enjoying one thing daily has helped me. I'm about to go have some sticky toffee pudding and ice cream as dinner. Not for dessert after dinner, but AS dinner. Fuck my high blood pressure and all that. I've been looking forward to this treat.
Reach out if you need someone to vent to. I'm not the best listener (i start interjecting with solutions) but I care enough to make an effort. You'll get through this.